A few days ago I had an interesting conversation with John Herman, who wrote the recently published book, The Innkeeper Tales. As we talked about how other people's opinions can get in the way of our dreams, he mentioned a word he coined that I absolutely love. Skeptator. As he describes it:
Every day that you get up you have a skeptator that's telling you, 'You can't do that. That won't work. Why are you trying that?' And you have to be able to shed that skin of listening to the skeptators exclusively. You have to hear everybody around you, but the inner voice is the one you have to listen to when it comes down to trying.
The skeptator isn't necessarily the enemy, Herman says.
I think the term skeptator is a realistic term. It's not a negative term. It simply says, there's going to be a check system in place, and you can choose to just let that in - which will kill your confidence and give you almost no chance of succeeding - or you can let that filter in.
And as you let it filter in, you ask, "Is this right? Is this valid? Is there information I need here?" Because sometimes the voice of the skeptator is exactly the insight or reminder you need.
Maybe because a skeptator said something to you, it jogs your mind and you say, 'That's right. I forgot to do some research about quantity, or quality, or price. Or, I may need to rethink something about how I want to format this book, or rewrite this song. So we learn from what the skeptators are telling us. We just aren't ruled by the skeptators.
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