One of the most frustrating things I see my clients encounter is that state of not knowing. There's an uncomfortable space where they recognize that where they've been no longer works, but they don't have a clue where to go from here, or how to get there.
Uncertainty makes us uneasy. It feels dangerous. It feels frustrating because we don't have "the answers" and we don't know what to do. And we're always supposed to know what to do, right?
When I hear people getting spooled up about not knowing, I always say, "You don't know where you're going, and you don't know how to get there? GREAT!"
That state of uncertainty is where it all begins. It's the most fertile soil for growing something new. It's a kind of primordial soup, out of which you can identify what's right for you, not just what's habit, or what's been handed to you in the past.
When you reach a state of "I don't know," you start to let go of all the things you think you know, because they're not giving you the answer. In a way, that state of not knowing wipes the slate clean and lets you start looking at the with fresh eyes.
When the uncertainty becomes strong enough we have the opportunity to realize, "What I thought I knew obviously hasn't been working. I need to be open to looking at this in an entirely new way if I want to get past this." And that blows the doors of possibility wide open, because we're not keeping ourselves trapped.
So I say, viva la befuddlement! It's the first step to something amazing on the other side.
Brought to you by Curt Rosengren, Passion Catalyst TM