Two of my favorite words in the English language are, "Question reality." So much of what gets in people's way in life relates to unquestioned assumptions that things "are the way they are." Assumptions about what career is supposed to look like, or about what success means. Assumptions about what is and isn't possible, or about who can and can't do what. The list is practically endless.
So much of how we see the world isn't a static reality, it's a perception based on our conditioning, and the beliefs we've absorbed along the way.
For those of you of the math geek persuasion, EM Sky over at Win-Win Web has a great analogy comparing our assumed reality with counting in base 10 (she does a great job of explaining the concept if you're not already familiar with it, so I won't try to re-explain it here).
In a nutshell, it centers around the notion that our counting system is in "base 10," which simply means it's based on ten digits (0, 1,2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9). When we run out of single digits at number 9, we go back to zero and slap a 1 in front of it (10). Same when we reach 19, and 29...
While we tend to see base 10 as counting "reality," it's really just the way of counting we've been conditioned to believe in. Our counting system could be in "base 3" (0, 1, 2), in which case we would run out of single digits after two and counting would look like this: 0, 1, 2, 10, 11, 12, 20, 21, etc...
So if you had two apples and I gave you one more, using base 3 counting you would have 10 apples.
What's the point of all this? As EM says...
...There are many, many things we do every day that we never think about. We don't have to do them the way we do. It just feels like the only way to do them. It feels like the "real" way because that's how we've always done these things - because that's how everyone does them. But the way we do things isn't necessarily the best way to do them. It's just what's familiar.
...Most of the "thinking" that we do every day isn't really active thinking. It's just popular (and familiar) programming that goes streaming through our minds unquestioned.
We all make assumptions as we go through life. It's how we function without overloading. But sometimes those assumptions are flawed, and there are other ways of looking at "reality" that are more conducive to creating the life we want.
Brought to you by Curt Rosengren, Passion Catalyst TM