Learn how to bounce back
Face it. There will inevitably be times in your journey when things feel like they've imploded. You've fallen on your face. Things have gone completely wrong.
What do you do? Here's an article that suggests that the ability to bounce back can be learned. A nutshell version of the tips:
Have Reasonable Expectations
The road of life is paved with a few potholes, dead ends, and wrong turns. If you accept that at some point you'll hit bumpy territory, then you're better prepared to negotiate it.
Change Your Question
Most people focus on how they ended up in their challenging situation...Resiliency means shifting the focus from what happened to what to do next. The best question you can ask yourself is: What can I do for myself right now that will move me forward?
What's Within Your Control?
Another thought pattern that delays rebounding from negative events is focusing on things you can't control. Doing so will make you feel incapable, helpless, victimized, and stressed. Instead, focus only on what you can control.
Growth Opportunity
...our biggest life lessons tend to come in the wake of negative events...What can you learn from your setback? How can you use it to improve your life (or the lives of others) in the future?
Assess Your Strengths
No matter what happens in life, there are certain things you'll always own: character strengths. Each of us has certain traits that make us unique. They can't be taken away (although sometimes we choose to give them away). Take a personal inventory of what makes you special.
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Curt Rosengren
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