A while back I was working with a client who had a serious perfectionist streak. One session, as we were talking about the lack of satisfaction with anything this client did, I said, "Do you know what I think your definition of good enough is?"
I walked up to the whiteboard and wrote:
(What I did) + 1 = Good enough
That got a laugh, and an admission that it was true. When perfectionism and overachievement runs into hyperoverdrive like that, good enough is literally an impossibility. One can always be added. There's always something that could have been done better, and that becomes the focus.
And if nothing is ever good enough, there can be no real self-praise. No celebration of one's own efforts and accomplishments. Which in turn means that the only motivation comes from a constant message of, "you're not good enough."
Wow. Can you see how that might get in the way of achieving all that you can?
If you find yourself falling prey to the perfectionist definition of good enough, try practicing a focus on the positive. Next time you do something, take a minute to celebrate what you've accomplished. Look for what's great about what you just did.
See if you can start developing a habit of stopping to inventory the positive. Learn to celebrate yourself, and start to build on the energy that gives you.
Passion Catalyst SM